The myths about Male Rape – blogger Snehal

The myths about Male Rape – blogger Snehal

Oh Boy! Men don’t get raped. You are crazy!!!. This is a clear cut picture in the social phenomenon on Male rape. While there have been several extensive researches on female rape and victims, the section of male rape and victims appears to be neglected. Lack of empirical information, social stigmatization, victim blame, and an overpowering shame prevents many male victims from reporting the assault. Such horrific incidents compel straight men to question their own sexual orientation while gay men often find it extremely difficult to trust other men and ultimately struggle in finding intimacy in their personal relationships.The main intention behind penning this article is to dispell the myths associated with male rape.

1. Men cannot be sexually assaulted.This is impossible: Anyone irrespective of their gender, race, strength, color, appearance can be a victim of sexual assault. It is a misconception that men cannot be raped. I think the society deduces that men are more stronger, brave and tougher than women and this makes it difficult to digest the fact that men can also be sexually assaulted.

2. Women cannot rape men: It might come as a shock to many but Yes, women can rape men. Among the perpetrators of male rape cases women perpetrators amount to 3% of the total lot. So the possibility of male rape by a woman cannot be ruled out. Male rape may not have been considered by many men as a serious possibility too. So, when men come across such an unexpected shock there is a likelihood that they may freeze during that situation.

3. Real men are not sexually assaulted: Men are always portrayed to be dominant, tough, controlling and as a stronger sex. So, the male victims fear of being victimized by family, society and friends. Sexual assault has nothing to do with manliness and physical strength. Sometimes, coercion, psychological and emotional control and blackmail can be used as a weapon to rape a man.

4. Female rape is more serious in nature than male rape: This is not true. Rape in itself is heinous offence and has nothing to do with the gender of the victim. All victims of rape whether male or female undoubtedly suffer a lot. Most of them have to deal with depression, anxiety, shame, guilt, nightmares etc.

I have always stated that feminism is not about hating men. It is about gender equality. The reason behind writing this article is to blast the bubble of myths surrounding feminism and male rape both at the same time.

Sexual Assault Awareness Month: New Technology Gives Us More Outlets for Harm by blogger Emily

Sexual Assault Awareness Month: New Technology Gives Us More Outlets for Harm by blogger Emily

The integration of technology into every facet of life has created a plethora of new channels for sexual expression and interaction. Sexting is a common practice in most relationships, especially among the college demographic, and Skype sex allows long distance couples to maintain a level of sexual intimacy when physical intimacy is unavailable. Snapchat has also become a promiscuous platform because, hey, the pictures disappear forever! They can’t come back to haunt you, right?

However, this also means that there are more avenues for sexual assault.

Sexual assault is unwanted sexual contact; it’s as simple as that. It doesn’t matter if that contact takes the form of a casual uninvited butt grab, violent sexual acts or an uninvited dick pic.

Technology gives us a buffer. When you send someone a text, you don’t have to deal with the immediate consequences. You are detached from witnessing the person’s immediate emotional reactions and therefore it is easier to harm someone.

Because of this, such platforms cater to emotional and mental abuse and often this abuse requires little to no energy on the offender’s side. The offender can send something truly damaging with the touch of a thumb and then forget about what they did with ease.

As April is sexual assault awareness month, I urge you to broaden your definition of sexual assault to account for all of these new modes of harm. If something sexual makes you feel uncomfortable, it’s sexual assault regardless of its form. Don’t disregard a text that you received that made you uncomfortable just because it was a text. Equally important, if someone you know expresses that they’ve experienced unwanted sexual contact via a technological platform, don’t discredit them. Treat the instance like you would a physical assault and give them the support they need.

Denim Day by Blogger Rhaina

Denim Day by Blogger Rhaina

To me, Sexual Assault Awareness Month means a chance for my community to show support to survivors. At Mississippi State University, there are several annual events associated with sexual assault awareness and prevention. One such event is Denim Day.

Denim Day began in 1999 when an Italian supreme court overturned a rape conviction based on what the victim was wearing—tight blue jeans. Members of both foreign and U.S. Congress protested the ruling by wearing denim jeans to work. Today, across the nation, agencies with dress codes ask their employees to donate money towards sexual violence prevention, and in return the employees can wear jeans to work for a day. Politicians, students, and others may wear jeans to symbolize solidarity against sexual assault.

At MSU, the student body is asked to donate blue jeans to the Health Education and Wellness Office. These jeans are then donated to local causes such as Safe Haven, Inc., a shelter for abused women which also operates a rape crisis hotline. MSU celebrates Denim Day in a unique way—if you would like your campus or your community to do something similar to show their support for this event, getting involved is easy!

Denim Day 2015 is on April 29th, and there are currently over four million registered participants. If you would like to participate, there are several things you can do. Sign up on www.denimdayinfo.org, ask your employers or professors if they would consider joining in, donate jeans to a local shelter, or simply wear blue jeans to show support.

 

Participating in Sexual Assault Awareness Month doesn’t always mean being bold, or loud, or hosting an extravagant event. You don’t need a lot of money, or a large group of people, or any special skills. You can help raise awareness for sexual assault by doing something as simple as changing your outfit. As Michelle Obama said, “Don’t ever underestimate the importance that you have, because courage can be contagious and hope can take on a life of its own.” This April, make a small change. Stand up for something. Let your courage and your hope be contagious, and be a light for others and a call to awareness. That’s what this month is all about.10666086_837799699602898_2859294013053950325_n