It’s not from the very beginning that women are enjoying self-focussed and intrepid lifestyle, leading a confident and independent life as they are now. With the passing time, women gathered enormous courage to be fearless and confident. But there still comes many times and phases when she feels the fear of people’s disapproval and acceptance. One such fear is backlash of the society faced by the sexual assault victims. Sometimes, physically and mentally wounded victims don’t come forward fearing the reaction of the society, fearing weather their experience and story would be trusted and accepted or not. Which ultimately encourages the guilt feeling in the survivor’s mind.
But by working on certain things the victims can come forward and share their experiences-
1) Approaching the Sexual Assault NGOs: The victim should reach out to any of the NGO that support the sexual assault victims. Such NGO can provide suitable healing environment to the victims and help the later to share their experience and hence unburden their minds.
2) By Joining the group of survivors & being the part of it: The pain felt by the victim makes them even more strong, strong enough to be a shoulder for any other victim and hence creating a support chain. The victims reaching such support group can help them to come forward without any fears.
3) Holding the Self-Confidence: The victim should not forget that until and unless they have their self-confidence with them, they don’t need anyone’s approval or sympathy, neither are they scared of the backlash. They should come forward and face the world with confidence.They should not forget that they do not need anyone’s approval but themselves to their story.
4) Self-Acceptance: Lastly the thing I would like to convey to all the readers here, not specifically just the survivors is that we should adapt a habit of self-acceptance and absolutely not of People Acceptance. Once we are confident and do not care what others might think of us, our story, our suffering, we won’t be scared to come forward if ever needed.
We must not forget that SELF-ACCEPTANCE masters all the fears..
When you find out that your Partner has been sexually assaulted, that moment can be very devastating.You and the victim of the sexual assault may feel anger, shame, and self-denial.It can be a very trying moment, but all the same, you need to encourage your partner to cope with the trauma.Provide the victim with love, support, and reassurance.
Here are five ways a partner can support a sexual assault Survivor.This partner may be a boyfriend or a husband if they are married.
1.Comfort your Partner and offer emotional Support
The victim may be ashamed of what happened to them, and they may find it difficult to share the details of what happened to them.Give your them enough time and emotional support to help them heal faster.Show them a lot of love and always comfort them as this will give them strength to move on.
2.Acknowledging their Strength
Make sure you encourage the victim by acknowledging their strength and encourage them to share their experiences.It will help them heal faster.Always offer the victim affirming statements that will help him/her have a positive change.
3.Empower the Survivors
Victims will have a feeling that they lack control over what happens to them.Empower them to ensure that they now feel they have regained control over their lives again.Let them know that they can make choices of what happens on their bodies.
4.Ensure the Victim has enough Resources
Let the victim know that there are enough resources to help them in their healing process.These resources include professional counseling to help them cope with the trauma.There are also centers that provide counseling to the survivors, and you can take your partner to one of the centers.
5.Always Seek Medical Care for the Victim
In case the sexual assault involved physical contact ensure your partner undergoes full medical examination.It will screen for any infections and it will also be useful if you want to press charges against the perpetrators.
As a young woman, this is the first time I have been able to part of widespread feminist movement.
January 20 signifies the Women’s March Day while many of us were not old enough to be apart of the last feminist movement this is one that is occurring before our eyes.
Many of us are marching today and letting our voices be heard against the misogynist government and society that has oppressed many women. Women of all races, colors, and sexual orientation are a part of this movement. Are we marching for freedom of speech, freedom from slut shaming, rape culture, harassment and assault? Are we marching because it’s fashionable and for one day we can come together as women and put away petty differences?
This movement needs to be clear and have a strong mission and guidelines on how to overcome injustices when so much in society has not changed. Yes we need to focus on the issues on men harassing and assaulting women. However, we need to address how women need to see they can also be a part of victim blaming and not be supportive of victims coming forward. There is no perfect victim yet we are constantly scrutinizing women based on appearance, social standing, career, wealth, relationship status, and sexual past. If we are truly going to change and improve life for our daughters than it starts with how we treat one another and view other women before we ask men to change.