Male Privilege is Very Real

Male Privilege is Very Real

by T.L. Burgess

The Existential Crisis

America is experiencing a ‘what is happening’ feeling right now. People are realizing that men of power have been getting away with inexcusable harassment to the ‘lesser sex’ – welcome to male privilege. Since the uproar from our recent presidential election, Americans have been shocked to find that there is a serious cultural issue in this country. The country is run by rich males who are allowed to do whatever they want without any serious consequences.

Celebrities are individuals who are seen as role models. Often their actions in their personal lives are connected with their professional work if it appears they have a typical American life. Things like watching children grow up, buying a new house and getting married or divorced are all hot topics but a person is a person. Celebrities are not inherently ‘good people’ simply because the life you see in the magazines suggest it. Yet, there is always this upheaval when you realize that someone with so much power, and money and influence could do something so horrible for so long.

What Can be Done?

Yes, one issue is that people don’t report. Victim shaming is very much a contributor to this. Another issue is that traumatic experiences such as sexual assault often happens more than once. A perpetrator is likely to become a repeat offender if their victim does not report. What about the issue of privilege? Is there a reason why celebrities and Presidents get a free pass? Of course there is, because with great power comes great privilege and the safety of women under such power are inconsequential. How can we empower women, how can we empower men to use and not abuse their power, and when will consequences be equal across the board, regardless of power and money and privilege?

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When Women Put Down Other Women  (AKA Internalized Misogyny)

When Women Put Down Other Women (AKA Internalized Misogyny)

Even though we associate misogyny with men, it is possible for women to be misogynistic.

Internalized misogyny is the act of elevating the status of men through demeaning the value of women in society. This includes the belief that women are inferior to men, the notion that women need to outcompete other women for attention, or the belief that other women need to fit some sort of ideal that is approved of for the male gaz.

It’s sad to say that the list goes on and on.

And on.

And on.

No one is born sexist, but the environment we grow up in can result in someone absorbing harmful, sexist messages which can result in ideas that follow into adulthood. This happens to almost everyone growing up in a patriarchal society.

When I was younger, one of the common trends I noticed within my female peers was the need to put one another down. Girls attacked other girls for things ranging from what clothes they wore, to their sexual activity, to whatever other idiosyncrasies these other girls may have had.  

This can be deemed as a result of internalized misogyny.

Young women and girls act out toward one another because they are frequently told that women are, in fact, inferior to men. This internalized message plays out during their daily lives. Putting another woman down is something that happens because this is the role, the societal norm, that comes with being part of the female gender. This way of acting, this way of behaving, is one of the secret tools of patriarchy that allows it to persist.

Though I call myself a feminist, I still have a long way to go. I wasn’t born sexist, but I was born into a patriarchal society that bombards individuals with sexist messages. I still have some internalized misogyny. Sometimes I do judge girls for their behaviors instead of wanting to support their right to agency. Sometimes I do end up thinking that I really am “not like other girls” (a problematic saying, by the way, as it infers superiority). I still have a long way to go.
But I’m still working on it. And I really hope other self-identifying females do, too.

The Walk of Shame: No Blame by blogger Julie

The Walk of Shame: No Blame by blogger Julie

There is a need of creating an environment where women and men are equal. This does not affect men alone. Women need to support each other to help achieve this goal. Most females act so negatively towards each other. Mostly it is because of jealousy. No woman wants to see the other progress.

The well being of a woman should be taken care of. It can be done by teaching women to respect each other regardless of the situation. After a night out, it is common to hear it is common to hear them say things like ” walk of shame ” . This should not be the case.

Every woman has a right to go home with who they want and do what they please. No one asks a man how many women he has been with on a monthly basis. The same should apply for women it’s none of anyone’s business. Whether you are sex positive or staying celibate everyone has a right to choice and should not be judged for this choice.

Instead of judging try placing one’s self in the other person’s shoes for the walk home.

Women should be taught to encourage and lead rather than criticize one another early. Doing this will empower the next generation. They will be more informed and as a result, they will make better choices. This will result in the overall empowerment of women in society.