5 WAYS TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A SURVIVOR
To be in a relationship is a very remarkable part of our life. We seemed to be inspired most of the time and we never those feeling ceases until our day is through.
We want to walk up in bed with same feelings we have with our partner but then when in a relationship with a survivor is another story. It is not as easy as having it
with normal people who never undergone a tragic point in life. It’s not as easy as the other one because it entails a lot of courage to do it. Facing the tragedy with our
loved one is a very complex thing to do.
We feel the grief, the pain and the sadness our partner used to have during the assault. Abuse is everywhere and the end result of it is too hard to mend as if the
wound keeps oozing blood infinitely.
So, how to deal with it?
We cannot just leave our partner just because of the fact that she was once in that shoe. Knowing how to go about it is very helpful to both of us. These are the ways
to be in a relationship with a survivor though how hard it is. It’s always our obligation to empower them and live once again.
Ways are:
1. Encourage your loved one to speak up. There’s no way you can join her fears and sadness by not her to speak up her thoughts. How is the pain and how she goes
through it. By knowing her inside you will know how to deal with her.
2. Help her explore other contemplative activities like yoga. Meditation and prayer. Prayer is the best way to heal.
3. Visit the website for sexual assault, rape, survivor or any other similar website to know more information on how to deal with a survivor. Talk about healthy relationship, there is no more good approach than talking some good things with her. Talking a good and healthy relationship with her will most likely inculcate in her
mind that life is meaningful.
4. Honor her boundaries, ask her permission when you want to touch her or kiss her. It is not easy to have those again after the dark event of her life. It might remind
her of the past when you just grab her and touch her.
5. Never blame her. Man tend to look for someone to blame for undesirable things, don’t do this to her. She never wanted to suffer more than this, blaming her is just
throwing her back to the time of event.
Knowing all these ways can help you and your survivor partner.