Now that you’ve clicked this link, you’re in need for some opinions to
support your sexual assaulted partner. Or maybe you want some information.
Either way, the fact that you’re here, is astounding. Alright, alright, let’s get
started.
Being in a position where your partner is a sexual assault survivor, is
something that should be taken seriously. You’re most likely wondering,
well, if I were in this position how would I act? Validating their feelings and
giving them room to speak their thoughts is the first and vital step.
Specifically, once they are on edge, the partner should step back, support and
listen carefully to what they have to say. Supporting them as a person will
continue to make a sexual assault survivor stable overtime. This, of course,
will not happen overtime.
Something to avoid when a partner is a sexual assault survivor, is blame.
Quiteliterally, blame.
Giving those simple phrases such as, “Why?” or “Why did you do it?” will
undoubtedly mentally damage them for the long run. Instead, creating an
environment where even if they made a mistake, whether big or small, they
will be supported by their partner, is an essential second step that has to be
taken. Rather than giving those discouraging words, saying phrases such as,
“It’s okay. We all make mistakes. Let’s figure out a solution together” or
“It’s okay. We aren’t perfect, so let’s see what we can do.” will undoubtedly
make your sexual assault survivor partner loosen up and relax. Remember the
word “It’s okay.”. Even though this cliche three letter phrase may not mean
much to you, this miniscule phrase can impact them so much.
We’ve gotten to supportive and not supportive phrases and how they
contribute to a person’s mental health. How about other things, such as gifts,
or small vacation trips? Now, materialistic gifts can’t give permanent
happiness, but can give a person marvelous memories that they can look back
and reflect on. Planning a date often with your significant other, can give
numerous amounts of positive energy and vibes. This will, without a doubt,
give your sexual assault survivor partner a smile to their face. Even if you
can’t plan a date, hanging out with your partner often will give them a
mindset that they are loved beyond measure.
Overall…
Personally, I do think there are way more steps that have to be taken that I
haven’t even mentioned. For instance, kindness, patience, and more.
However you do not want to ‘baby’ them. Basically taking care of them like a
baby 24/7. As much as you need to support your partner, not giving them the
chance to figure out stuff on their own, is not necessarily ok. What I’m trying
to say, is you have to do a good mix between supporting them and letting
them figure out small problems on their own.
Hopefully you got what you were looking for. I mean, at the end of the day,
these are my opinions only. There are many different thoughts and opinions
in the internet world, so I recommend checking those articles out. As always,
now that you’ve finished reading this blog, have a splendid day.
